Two-day workshop for couples (and individuals) to explore how to turn important and challenging conversations to become more mindful, compassionate and even enjoyable.

Led by Daniel Ellenberg, PhD, leadership coach and group facilitator, San Francisco/CA.


Being mindful and relaxed when alone tends to be easier than doing so in relationships: we often feel vulnerable when we seek (or long for) understanding, respect, appreciation, and/or love in relationships. There’s no guarantee that we’ll get what we want.


However, knowing how to navigate the complexities of important and challenging conversations, whether personal or professional, increases the likelihood that we’ll get what we seek in relationships. There is both a science and an art to being effective in these important conversations. This workshop is an overview of a mindset and skill set that underlies, inspires, and catalyzes successful, important conversations.


You will become more adept in navigating conversations by both gaining a deeper understanding of the challenges people face (including yourself) in having mindful, compassionate and even enjoyable conversations while also expanding your own mindset and skillset in being effective in these conversations. The principles and practices we explore are applicable to both personal and professional relationships.


We include a framework for utilizing discoveries from neuroscience, communication theories, and various psychological approaches—including positive, cognitive, evolutionary, and existential. The workshop will include short talks, small group processes, and larger group discussions.


Some of the skills and tools that you learn:

  1. An approach for understanding the common opportunities and impediments to important conversations
  2. Recognizing and addressing the hidden dynamics and issues people have behind their upsets (including your own)
  3. Why clarifying intention and staying on purpose is so critical to successful outcomes in conversations
  4. Both the importance of interpersonal courage and how to develop more of it
  5. The factors that increase the probability of having the other person receive your message positively
  6. Ways to recognize and identify emotional reactivity (defensiveness) as the core obstacle to successful conversations
  7. Awareness of the hidden assumptions that can derail an important conversation
  8. Practices to diminish reactivity and inspire positive participation
  9. Tools for navigating the body of an important conversation



Saturday 16.05.2020 at 10.00-17.00

Sunday 17.05.2020 at 10.00-17.00


Venue: to be announced soon



Private person: 325,00 € (incl. VAT 24 %)
Companies, practitioners and organizations: 360,00 € (+ VAT 24 % 86,40 €)


Daniel Ellenberg, PhD, is a leadership coach, licensed therapist, seminar leader, and group facilitator. He is a principle in both Rewire Leadership Institute and Relationships That Work. He leads Strength with Heart men’s groups and workshops, is a member of the APA division for the psychological study of men and masculinity, is a founding member of the Men’s Counseling Guild, and wrote his dissertation on psychological aspects of the male sex role. He is co-author (with his wife) of Lovers for Life: Creating Lasting Passion, Trust, and True Partnership.  He co-created and delivered a resilience training program for several NASA space centers. He is a board trustee at the California Institute of Integral Studies and the Wellspring Institute of Neuroscience and Contemplative Practice.